The life you're living is the outcome of the decisions you make in life. Seriously. If your life is shit, it's because you don't make the effort to crawl out of shit. You're not gonna get by life making unrealistic aspirations but not taking the necessary steps to reach your goals. You gotta realize at one point you're not only living your life, but your life connected to others. So when you drag people into shit, that's on you. If you want others to care for you, make an effort to care for others. Nobody's gonna hold your hand if you don't hold theirs. Don't leave people in shithole situations after they've done so much for you. They deserve your attention and respect. If they can get by their lives no matter how difficult it is and attend to you, you should be able to do the same for them, no excuses. Saying that you're not the same as that person is another pathetic excuse to just get by life lazily. If you want to live a life free of troubles, abandon all your relationships and become a hermit. Don't rely on anyone, and nobody will rely on you. Everyone wants something out of life.